Men are drawn to female modesty despite our culture's bold declaration to
the contrary. Most women can probably think of a time when their own modest
behavior elicited a sense of awe from men in our otherwise leering, lewd
society.
One such encounter stands out vividly in my mind. Raised to be a "lady," I had nonetheless lived the party lifestyle during my teenage-rebellion years and experienced the uglier side of male behavior. So imagine my surprise one day years later, after becoming a Christian, when I found myself having to pass by a group of young men in my street and met with...quiet respect. Their response floored me.
I remember distinctly that I was wearing a dress that day, modestly cut but attractive. As I approached the area and spotted the group of men, a feeling of dread washed over me and I whispered a prayer for protection, kept my head up, my eyes down, and passed by in total silence. It was as if someone cast a spell over the men, and the effect was palpable. Their noisy male jostling ceased, and as I walked by not one lewd remark or wolf whistle followed after me. Maybe you could chalk it up to the power of prayer that day, and I like to think God did play a part, but I can't help but think the transformation in me was partly responsible for the men's reaction. I now regarded myself as a lady, someone of value and worth in God's eyes, and I believe I emanated that to the world.
A story I read later on this subject still lingers in my memory. It goes thus: " The pastor of the church I attended told how he and his wife had a stopover in Las Vegas on a trip out West. Needing to stay overnight, they booked a room in one of the large hotels that contained a casino on the first floor. My pastor described the scene: the crowded casino, a roomful of drinking men and women showing too much of their bodies. Passing through the crowd to the registration desk, he let his wife go before him and marveled at what happened. My pastor watched as, in this room filled with over-exposed women oozing sensuality, the other men parted like the Red Sea to allow his beautiful and modestly dressed wife pass to the registration desk--staring quietly after her the whole way. Suddenly, in that moment, the other women disappeared from view."
She was beautiful, yes, but it was more than that. She carried herself like a queen in the best sense of the word. Regal yet undemanding. Beautiful yet chaste. Feminine and alluring but not in the least bit outwardly sensual.
Yes, men are aroused by sultry women who flaunt their sensuality and their bodies as a form of power. They may be helplessly turned on by the many powerful sexual images our society throws out as bait. But the women they marry are usually the ones whose sensuality is much more hidden from view--there for the right man, but not on display for all the world to see.