Tips for achieving orgasm

At the start, achieving orgasm is always an uphill task for lots of women. In fact if not properly guided, the woman might begin to think its unachievable while many others cannot even tell if they have ever experienced it or not. In this article we'll touch every thing that is necessary for you to know if you have already achieved orgasm before and how to get there if you have never.

Everyone can orgasm, but not everyone does. Coming' isn't all that easy - if you're a woman! Nearly all MEN can climax without difficulty, but women just aren't built that way. For a man sexual intercourse alone, that is, penetration of a woman's vagina by a man's penis may be sufficient to climax. But it very often is not enough to make a woman reach orgasm.

What is Orgasm?

 Orgasm is the pinnacle of sexual passion. It is the moment of intense pleasure, which results into feeling relaxed and at ease. The female orgasm lasts a few seconds, followed by a feeling of relaxation and pleasure. Continued stimulation may also result in further orgasms, which though is difficult for females of certain age group. 

When you have an orgasm you're likely to feel an electric rush which starts inside your vagina/clitoris and spreads outward. You'll likely notice flushing of your chest, neck, and possibly your face. Your breathing will be rapid and shallow. There will probably be a series of rapid pulsations in your vagina as the muscles contract and relax again. And, it will be followed by the most incredible feeling of "release." Also the vagina feels extra soft succulent, you just know you've gotten to the highest height of pleasure possible in life.

Having an orgasm is a lovely feeling. You're entitled to it. But it's not easy to do if you're uptight, tired, stressed or unhappy in your relationship.

Achieving Orgasm

Woman on top position

Even though Somoza explains that it still needs to be a joint effort, Levin adds that when the woman is on top, she is in control of the depth and motion as well as having easy access to her clitoris for pleasure. She can move back and forth thereby allowing the man's belly to caress her clitoris instead of the up and down pump which enhances the male orgasm. This way she slows down the man's orgasm and concentrates on hers thereby allowing the man time to fondle and caress her breast/nipples. This does the magic for a lot of ladies.


Speak up
You need to become confident in telling your partner where the gold is. Simply saying "up," "down," "more" or "left" probably won't cut it. You need to be really specific with regard to location, speed and pressure so that he provides the stimulation to your clitoris that actually stimulates you.
Some men do not really understand what it is with women and touching, you must teach your man this and exactly how you want it. He should learn to enjoy the act of caressing your breasts and also consider doing it while he is inside of you. Your breasts, no matter the size, have an impressive network of nerve endings that create a playful erogenous zone. Further, stimulation of the nipples can result in an extra release of oxytocin, "the love hormone," which will enhance your orgasm.

 Relax! Unwind
Relaxation is key. Unlike men who can have sex and reach orgasm anywhere, any time, any place, under any conditions, women are wired differently. If you aren't relaxed and detached from the stresses of the day, your chances of achieving orgasm are significantly decreased. Therefore, determine what calms you -- be it candles, a hot bath, deep breathing or a glass of wine -- and then commit to getting in that relaxed zone before attempting to reach that coveted "O."

 Create your "O" environment
You need a space that breathes sensuality to you. Experiment with different types of music, lighting, videos in the background, mirrors and so on. Creating an atmosphere that turns you on will make you feel equally inspired and at ease.

Time out
Often, a woman feels guilty that, as her partner is attempting to help her climax or she is trying to do it herself to finish simultaneously with her partner, it is taking a "long time." Well first off, know your facts: The average male takes five to 10 minutes to climax, whereas the average female takes 15 to 20 minutes. So sit back, relax and know that it is going to be awhile.

Let gO!
Sex is meant to be a natural intertwining of two energies. If you are stiff or are concentrating intently on the possibility of an orgasm (or lack thereof), your body will fight climax and actually begin to produce less natural lubricant, making the goal harder to achieve. So, just lie back and slip into the moment, allowing your mind and body to accept the natural gift of orgasm.