Stopping the EPIDERMIC called Adultery

1. Set Standards before you are confronted with the Temptation: I always advise couples to talk about this together. Don't think that it can never happen to you or that your spouse is a super man. "1 Corinthians 10:12(KJV) -Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall." Set clear standards together as a couple and also as an individual. Adultery is first a sin against God before it is an act of unfaithfulness to your spouse therefore even though your spouse will hurt when u fall into it, you are responsible for your own sins. Make a decision on how far your relationship with the opposite sex can go and how far it cannot go. Make sure you define every relationship you have with the opposite sex so that even the other person understands what the two of you are doing.
2. Practice regular "Flee": Avoid every situation that will make you prone to committing adultery either consciously or unconsciously. Running off to an opposite sex each time you have a quarrel with your spouse, staying late night alone with an opposite sex etc. As a married woman, be careful how you take compliments from a man especially when you are not getting enough from your spouse. Just like Joseph did not allow himself to be caught up with his master's wife. He FLED not because he was weak but because he understood that sin is not to be toyed with. "Proverbs 6:27-29(KJV) - Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent."
3. Be Open and accountable to your spouse: Don't keep it to your self when you notice strange behaviours or unnecessary attentions from an opposite sex. When someone makes advances at you, don't feel like you can ward them off on your own. Let your spouse know the details of what you are doing with him or her. This will help keep you in check and trust me, it enhances your intimacy with your spouse. One of the reasons you have a partner is so that you don't have to fight battles alone. "Eccl.4:12(NIV) - Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
4. Be ruthless with temptation: To flirt or condone flirtation is a risky behaviour because I have come to understand that no one is beyond being tempted. There might be cases where you will have to be harsh or even resort to violence in other to loose your self from the cobweb of adultery. Fight it out if need be and shun all manner of flirtations around you. Let your friends and acquaintances know that you have limits and rules even when you are playing.
5. Guard Your Heart: Make a firm decision that you will never succumb to adultery. It all begins with the heart where the decision is made and then it manifests in the actions. Be careful what thoughts you entertain, what you read is very important too and what you listen to. What kind of friends do you keep? Do you keep friends whose values are direct opposite  of yours? "Prov. 4:23 - Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." 

Christian Sex Rule

   When it comes to sex, most married Christians just do what works for them. If they have been blessed enough to have discovered something that brings satisfaction, pleasure, closeness, and climax, they most likely will continue that practice. However, some are plagued with guilt because they wonder if what they're doing is sinful.

Because there are some specific sexual behaviors that are forbidden in scriptures, this article will try to shed light on the most common sexual practices and how they relate to the word of God( the bible) and our christian life.

1. Fornication: This is sexual intimacy between two unmarried people. The bible expressly condemns this practice. "1 Thessalonians 4:3 - For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:"
2. Adultery: Sexual intimacy between a married person and anybody other than his/her spouse. It could be between two married persons who are married to other individuals or between a married person and an unmarried person. The Bible also expressly condemns this. 
   "Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
3. Multiple Partners,Threesome, foursome etc: Sex is neither a spectator sport for group indulgence nor an event to test a person's ability to score with multiple partners. Casual sex as a way to prove one's prowess or with multiple partners simply violates all of God's intention for sexual experience. Apart from the fact that multiple partners can breed infidelity, create mistrust, performance anxiety, and comparison evaluations that are barriers to the deepest levels of intimacy. The bible talks about sex only for the husband and wife.
4. Masturbation: This is the excitation of the sexual organs by oneself, most often to the point of orgasm. This perhaps one of the most debated and least resolved sexual subjects in the church. Even though masturbation is a grey area in the bible which means that the word does not appear in the bible, one of the beauties of our faith is that God did not leave us alone when Jesus went back to heaven. He sent us the Holy Spirit to guide and help us in our christian walk and decisions. In my research on this subject , I have come across the works of several men and women - christians and non-christians alike but i have come to one conclusion which is that their arguments end lamely when placed side by side with Gods standard of holiness and purity. Masturbation is a sexual sin and should not be practiced by Christians. Like all sexual practices outside marriage, it is the defilement of one's body and spirit. Masturbation also violates Gods law of being self controlled. We have a full article coming up soon on Masturbation. See you them.
5. Homosexuality: Sexual intimacy between persons of the same sex. The bible say this practice is contrary to sound doctrine. "1 Timothy 1:10 - for the sexually immoral, for those practicing homosexuality, for slave traders and liars and perjurers—and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine"(NIV), "Romans 1: 26-28 - For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: ²⁷ And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
   ²⁸ And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;"
6. Bestiality: A person having sexual relations with an animal. The Bible refers to this as pervasion or confusion. "Leviticus 18:23 - Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion."
   
   
   
    

The Untold Truths About Sexual Purity

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The Untold Truths About Sexual Purity

Everybody talks about sex. The media promotes it through adverts. Some institution supports it as a means if abstinence cannot be done through the use of contraceptives. Sex now involves an activity that can be carried out between two or more persons. In recent times, discussions about sex usually raise an eyebrow among the discussant. No one would want to talk about his or her sexual life in the public because the act is sacred - private. Except for the morally loose people who are not shy to discuss their sex life, it is meant to be a sanctified act between only two people who are legally married as the Creator originally designed it.

Is having sex a crime? Why am I told to wait until I get married? God has his answer to the question and the devil also has his own explanation. This would bring us to the truths and lies about sex.

Lie #1: Rather than abstain you can indulge, just be faithful to one partner (Pre-marital Sex)

Truths: God has given each and every one of us the willpower to do and not to do. However, there is a provision of grace upon you when you set your mind not to indulge in sexual acts until marriage. Do you know the harm it brings is more than the pleasure derived? To a lady that engages in premarital sex, first, it may lead to unwanted pregnancy and if you think you are smart, you go for abortion, which is murder. Secondly, you may become victim of sexual transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, staphylococcus, syphilis and other diseases; guys too are not spared. Guilt, shame and emotional bondage will creep into such life. Immediately after the act, the guy gets dissatisfied and starts looking for another avenue to explore making him to be looking for another bed mate (fornication). Are there any gains in premarital sex or abstinence? Count both cost.

Lie #2: If you don't want to practice premarital sex, try masturbation or use sex toys

 
Truths: Since the media are now encouraging the use of sex toys, it has become an eye opener for people as an alternative to having sex. Those who masturbate often become addicts to the act even when they are married. The females excite themselves with candles, vibrators and likewise the males with their fingers. These, in the long run become a spirit to battle with. They lose their loved ones as a result of the act. Damage to their sexual organs is inevitable. The females would have their womb damaged due to incessant use of the toys. There is lack of concentration as a result of the act in the minds of the perpetrator. The judgment of God is fierce upon on all whore mongers (Heb. 13:4b).

Lie #3: Don't think you are immortal; everybody is doing it, even...

Truths: When all the nations and languages of the earth, all bowed to the idol of Nebuchadnezzar, the three Hebrew boys; Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego did not compromise their faith in God (Dan. 3). In this generation, where it is believed that everybody is having sex, you can be among the millions who are not defying their bodies. They still choose to remain a chaste even when it is not encouraged, an old fashioned or seem impossible. The next sexually pure person can be you. Believe you can do it and God will give you the grace. It saves you from emotional trauma, heart breaks and evil soul ties. Do we still have people who have not bowed to the world's image of premarital sex? Make yourself available.

Lie #4: It is better to watch sex films or see explicit pictures (pornography) than to practice sex

 
Truth: Well, it may have sounded true if Christ had not told us that "Whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matt. 5:28). One thing about what we feed our mind with is that they tend to pollute and corrupt our entire being. Watching sex films, would increase one's sexual urge to commit the act. Nothing motivates a person to have sex other than what he/she has programmed into the mind relating to sex. Pornographic materials usually get one's attention from focusing on productive things. It ruins marriages and breaks relationships. When you feed your mind with obscene items; the heart is corrupt.

Lie #5: You cannot be satisfied with a partner throughout your married life (Extramarital affairs)
Truth: "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled, but whore mongers and adulterers will God judge" (Heb. 13:4). God will judge them because they have polluted their marital beds and altered His original plan for marriage when He instituted it. However, the bible told us that, "But godliness with contentment is great gain" (1 Tim. 6:6). There is nothing as good as deriving happiness with a wife that you exchanged marital vows with. When bundles of promises are made, dozens of fantasies are created and love is promised to be kept. How disastrous would it be if all these ends unfulfilled?

Extramarital affairs makes their children to have divided upbringing, single parenting and lack of parental care. They become divorced, separated and their homes become broken resulting from infidelity, adultery and lack of trust.

Lie #6: Since you are told not to have sex, kissing, petting, fondling, romancing, hugging, necking, smooching is not that bad

Truth: "Flee also youth lusts" and "abstain from all appearances of evil" (1 Tim. 2:22; 1 Thess. 5:22). All the aforementioned acts would gravitate towards sexual intercourse. The devil is so smart that when petting starts, before you know it, kissing suffice, fondling and smooching comes into play not too long, and however, romancing is not far from committing the act. There is no need to start a race that you cannot finish, neither is it good to embark on a journey that you are not ready for.

Lies are distorted or altered truths which lacks ingenuity. Many people have been lied to, living their lives in falsehood. This has daring consequences on their marriages and relationship. Do not allow anybody to deceive you by joining the band wagon of sexually loose people. Chastity can still be achieved in this corrupt world. Dare to be different. Sexual purity has no effect on your life and marriage. It is a culture that is worth embracing and can be achieved. Do not believe these lies. Seek to know the truth and the truth shall set you free from the consequences of ignorance.