A lot of people not having the right understanding of what
marriage is supposed to be, end up with a lot of misconception about it. Belief
in any of these myths surrounding marriage can give you an unrealistic
expectations towards the relationship and disappointment is bound to set in
when this happens. The truth is, there are no fairy tale marriages where you
have the happily-ever-after endings. Successful marriages are a product of hardwork.
Here are some of these common myths on marriage and
the realities of the situation.
Myth No. 1: Marriage
will end my loneliness
Reality: Many
married people are still lonely infact some of them suffer from chronic
loneliness. God did not design man to be complete in another man or himself but
it is only in Christ that we (human beings) are complete! There is a difference
between being lonely and being alone. Marriage solves the issue of being alone
i.e. having a companion but there is a void in every man which nothing else can
fill except God and the feeling of loneliness happens when this link between
man and God is not intact.
Colosians 2:9-10(KJV):
“For in him (Christ)dwelleth all the fulness of the God-head bodily. And you are complete in him, which is the
head of all principality and power”
In other words, no man not even your spouse can take away
the feeling of loneliness from you because they cannot take the place of God in
your life. All you need to do is to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour and
He will abide with you forever.
Myth No. 2: Marriage
is a rite that everyone must perform
Reality: The
truth is that marriage is only for those who have decided and are ready to make
a commitment to and take responsibility for one another. For example, marriage
is not for babies, but for the mature. Marriage is not for people who have not
mastered self-control, neither is it for those who have no staying power to see
a matter through to the end.
Myth No. 3:
Infidelity only happen to bad or weak people
Reality: Infidelity
can happen to any couple and you can only guard against it by putting some
boundaries in place and staying diligent in the place of prayer. Anybody can be
tempted especially when they are not observing the checks God have put in place
to avoid such pitfalls. E.g. a couple that deny each other sexual intimacy for
a long time due to quarel.
I Corinthians 7:3-5
“Let the husband render to the wife due
benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not
power over her own body but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath no
power of his body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one another, except it be with
consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come
together again that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. ”
